About the Work
Many people come to me after trying a previous therapy that focused on symptoms but didn’t address the cause.
My work is grounded in psychodynamic and existential theories—which broadly focus on 1) your relationships (e.g., family, friends, partners, colleagues, how you relate to yourself) and 2) meaning-making (what is your life about?).
My approach is especially useful for people who look successful but never feel like they’re doing their best. People who feel stuck despite knowing what steps to take, even after taking many of them. People who feel lost after reaching a big goal, or because a big decision is staring them right in the face.
Sound good? Book a free consult call with me.
Want to learn more about me and my team? Read about that here: About Us
What Changes in Therapy?
A lot can change during therapy. Nobody experiences therapy the same way and there are no guarantees—because you’re the one really doing the work. However, here are some common outcomes:
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Greater clarity about your patterns
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Increased ability to act instead of overthink
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More directness in your relationships
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Calmer days, productive weeks, fewer wasted years
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Remembering what matters to you, and living like it
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More assertivenss, more decisiveness
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Liking who you are
Does Therapy Work? How?
The research is clear: therapy is effective. This is especially true when the client and therapist have a good relationship and both agree about what they’re doing. So…what are we doing in therapy?
We talk about two things:
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Content
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Process
Content: this is what most folks think therapy is about. Talking about a problem in your relationship. Figuring out why you aren’t getting promoted. Deciding whether to move.
Process: this is the real work of therapy. “Process” is when, while talking about that problem in your relationship, we notice that the emotions on your face don’t match what you’re saying and realize that your partner may be confused about how you feel (which contributes to that persnickety problem). Process is when I need to reschedule a session last minute, and it pisses you off, but you didn’t speak up about it (maybe you even get passive aggressive) and we realize that you do the same to your boss—the one who isn’t promoting you. Process is when we realize that you mull the same thing over and over and over in circles week after week…instead of booking a flight to that new prospective city and see how it feels.
“Content” is what we talk about. “Process" is how we talk about it. This secret sauce is probably the biggest difference between a somewhat helpful therapist and a GREAT therapist who changes your life.
You should work with a great one.
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What is Psychodynamic Therapy? Existential Therapy?
The link in this image will take you to my Instagram reel that explains these 7 principles of psychodynamic therapy.
The recipes are simple, but not easy.
Psychodynamic Therapy focuses on:
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Emotion
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Avoidance
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Recurring Patterns
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Relationships
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The Therapy Relationship
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Early Development
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Wishes, Desires Fantasies
Existential Therapy helps you deal with these four givens:
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Death
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Freedom (and responsibility)
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Isolation
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Meaninglessness
There's more than a century of thought, research, and clinical practice into both of these. If you want to see what it's all about, book a consult now.